2022 hits different.
For the past year, I’ve always wanted to find a therapist and confide my innermost feelings to, let it all out. Because during the end of 2020 and beginning of 2021, I’ve gone through a mid-crisis, it’s been tough but somehow I’ve managed to escape the rabbit hole and shine even brighter than before. Which is why I have used the last few months of 2021 to recap some big wins and set new intentions and priorities for the upcoming year. It’s not so much a list of resolutions as it is committing to a mantra. I consider the ways I want to feel so that when I’m making decisions, I’m very clear on the why behind them. I want to stay focused, keep my priories straight, on the path forward, not backward. Here at Messycafe, we’ve always inspired to hear what others are working on, so in the spirit of sharing, here are a few priorities that we think might help you discover how to prioritize your life, too.
Personally, having to escape my mid-crisis around the summer of 2021 was a moment of celebration as this was very much a win for me in 2021. For the first time in a while, I took back my calendar and energy, and put myself at the top of list this year. Now, feeling in control of my schedule and most importantly, my mental and physical health.
If you want a visual, here’s what that looks like: identifying the moments you need to pump the breaks. For example, when you travel, block off your calendar two days before and two days after to rest up and catch up on the essentials with work and home. Or if you’re giving a big presentation or moderating a panel, block off your calendar before for an entire week to rest, move your body, and fully prepare. Listen, athletes have no problem zoning in on what needs to be done to perform their best, and that’s the way to approach your performance in work, friendships, etc. Continuing this as it sets me up to be fully present with my friends, family, and work.
More honest and tough conversations.
Growing up as an appeaser, one that was afraid of big feelings, “rocking the boat,” or making others feel uncomfortable, I really think I should invest in therapy so it’ll help bring me closer to having tough conversations more often. It’s true what they say, the more you have them, the easier it gets, and for me, it’s imperative if I’m to truly live in alignment and make my relationships flourish and strengthen. I’ve always been a very sensitive person and if I may, let me provide you with advice: it’s to get out of your head from making up scenarios and just have the conversation. Remember, you’re not responsible for other’s feelings, so please don’t take that on. Be kind in your honesty, and be responsible for your part, but other’s emotions aren’t your problem to absorb.
Feel like this one is always top of mind, but our approach is different. You know your body and self well enough to know that when you move it, you feel 100% better because of the dopamine release. Prioritizing 30 minutes of movement every day. Whether it’s a light walk, taking the stairs versus the elevator a few times, walking to the store, swim, bike ride, yoga, stretching, or something a bit sweatier, the idea is that you’re simply doing something. Not for a goal of losing weight, but to live an active life and feel good.
Consumption for the planet.
In an effort to be kinder to the planet and not contribute to waste, reprioritizing how accepting gifting from brands, and how much you’re consuming. One look in your closet and you’ve been a bit detached from what you actually need, wear, and receive. There’s no shortage of clothing rental companies from Rent the Runway to Nuuly, etc. Ever notice how having more things takes more time? More time to clean, take inventory, or if you’re like me, spend more time trying to find things?
The older we get, the more we understand the types of things (and people) that give me energy and what sucks it up. It’s very much along the lines of my first tip, “Me, first,” which is: we don’t have the capacity to do or be around people (willingly, anyway) that suck our energy, the energy of the room, or to be a part of a project that doesn’t light us up. (Trust me, I’ve found out the hard way.) Our energy is limited, and we need to preserve it for those that are deserving of it. Not sure what to tell someone that wants your time, and you don’t want to give it? Simply respond with, “I’m not available, thanks for thinking of me.” We don’t owe anyone an explanation that we don’t want to give one to. Don’t worry, you’re not being ruthless. You’re being mindful and intentional with who and how you want to spend my time.
New year, new part-time location?
We really shouldn’t put a question mark in there because it’s very much something we believe will happen. You know what they say, watch out what you put into the universe because it’ll happen. So here we are putting it out there and excited about where it leads.
How do you want to feel in December 2022?
Do you want to feel nourished and fulfilled by the way you spend your time, and how you took care of yourself, your friends, your family, the community, and the environment?
Think about these priorities and how you can achieve just that. Let us know in the comments about your opinion and feel free to share your goals as well.
Stay safe, healthy, and live life to the fullest.